Worthlessness

I’m a worthless piece of crap

What We Don’t KNOW Can Hurt Us

I think I know enough to use caution when going down a flight of stairs, but forgetting the difference between thinking and knowing still trips me up every day.


Weeding Out Our Defective Mental Models

“I think the single most important thing that we can do is to recognize that we do not live in a real world. We live in a construct, and we made it.”


You May Be Right

“Here lies the body of William Jay,
Who died maintaining his right of way –
He was right, dead right, as he sped along,
But he’s just as dead as if he were wrong.”–Dale Carnegie


Digesting Emotional Eating

“One of the most common causes of overeating and weight gain is difficulty regulating our emotions, our moods, our thoughts, and even disruptive impulses and behaviors.” – Julie M. Simon


FAIR Consent

Practicing FAIR consent is a powerful tool for reducing unwanted sexual interactions. Practicing consent in everyday life can lead to richer, more rewarding relationships and emotional resilience.


Interdependence Day

It’s ironic but totally healthy that we mark our nation’s independence with a celebration of dictatorship, interdependence, and e pluribus unum.


A Friendly Antidote to Depression

The topic of an antidote to depression came up on a recent episode of the 10% Happier with Dan Harris podcast in a friendly way.


How to View the Future

A surprising question about the the future got me thinking about problems we can never answer through thought.


Overcoming Resistance

Every day I run into circumstances where my mind’s habitual response is resistance. Last Saturday, one of the things I resisted most vehemently was leading a discussion entitled, “Welcome Everything, Push Away Nothing.”


7 Shocking Links Between Sleep and Depression

Shortly after you were born, your mother had a shocking conversation with her doctor about your unusual sleep habits.


How to Care for a Hungry Ghost

Not all of us believe in ghosts, but anyone whose suffered from depression and felt unworthy of love knows what it’s like to be haunted.


How to Reboot Your Ego

I once laughed at a bumper sticker that read “Reality is for people who can’t handle drugs.” A Fresh Air interview with Michael Pollan about his book How To Change Your Mind convinces me that ego is for people who can’t handle reality.


Anti-Social Media and Social Comparison

The media has been selling social comparison for generations. Imagine it’s 1928 and you’re paging through the local gazette where you learn about a newly discovered medical condition.


Sex Tips for Mental Well-Being

A quote from anthropologist Helen Fisher got me thinking about how sex impacts our well-being and depression. “I don’t think, honestly, we’re an animal that was built to be happy; we are an animal that was built to reproduce. I think the happiness we find, we make.”


Four Key Concepts for More Loving Relationships

In A Midsummer Night’s Dream, Shakespeare’s character Lysander says, “The course of true love never did run smooth.” How well we negotiate relationships can mean the difference between depression and well-being. Susan Piver’s new book The Four Noble Truths of Love helps us navigate that course.


Practicing Our Mistakes

It’s true that practicing strengthens our habits. But, like “the Force” in the Star Wars saga, what we practice has both a light and a dark side.


A Family Recipe for Feeling Worthless

Many holiday dinners contain recipes to leave us feeling worthless.


Would You Like a Hug?

We don’t become depressed because antidepressants are missing from our daily diet, but a shortage of hugs can lead to anxiety, depression, and worse.


Investigating Our Values

“There is no right or wrong, no good or bad, when it comes to values. What you value is what you value—end of story!” writes Russ Harris in The Happiness Trap: How to Stop Struggling and Start Living: A Guide to ACT. But, living our values can lead us either to depression or to well-being.


Why Intention is Greater Than Outcome

On Saturday morning I felt let down, a little sorry for myself, and that what I was doing was a waste of time. In other words, I forgot the equation: Intention > Outcome.


Motivation to Meet Our Needs

I was running low on motivation this week. Instead of coming up with a post idea, I decided to take it easy on myself and change the world instead.


Judgment Mind at the Movies

Though I started watching the Academy Awards when I was a little kid, I don’t know if I ever enjoyed it. Looking at the experience through the lens of well-being and depression, I think it reveals a lot about how judgment mind makes us enjoy things less.