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Why Intention is Greater Than Outcome

On Saturday morning I felt let down, a little sorry for myself, and that what I was doing was a waste of time. In other words, I forgot the equation: Intention > Outcome.

Interdependence Day

It’s ironic but totally healthy that we mark our nation’s independence with a celebration of dictatorship, interdependence, and e pluribus unum.

Gift of Thank You!

What should you get your friends and co-workers this holiday season? How about something they’ll thank you for by returning or re-gifting it?

Showing Up for Well-Being

Why showing up for others is essential to my sense of well-being.

The Evolution of Social Anxiety

Feelings of social anxiety are very real, but thanks to our ancestors, they’re not very reliable.

Investigating Our Values

“There is no right or wrong, no good or bad, when it comes to values. What you value is what you value—end of story!” writes Russ Harris in The Happiness Trap: How to Stop Struggling and Start Living: A Guide to ACT. But, living our values can lead us either to depression or to well-being.

Holiday Conversations

I was impressed by how effective this year’s political campaigns were at creating division and fear. As we come together with friends and family of all political stripes over the holidays, what would happen if we analyzed how politicians behaved and did the opposite? Would our conversations create connection and trust?

How to Win a Political Argument

“You can’t win an argument. You can’t because if you lose it, you lose it; and if you win it, you lose it.”–Dale Carnegie, How to Win Friends and Influence People

Human Thought and Animal Emotion

Lizards and mice and monkeys, oh my. When our human thought and animal emotion are at odds, it’s easy to get depressed. But learning techniques to tame the animals in our head can help us achieve greater well-being.

Making Community Happen

This year, I felt closer than usual to people experiencing Seasonal Affective Disorder. We had the wettest winter in our community since 1895.

Sex Tips for Mental Well-Being

A quote from anthropologist Helen Fisher got me thinking about how sex impacts our well-being and depression. “I don’t think, honestly, we’re an animal that was built to be happy; we are an animal that was built to reproduce. I think the happiness we find, we make.”

FAIR Consent

Practicing FAIR consent is a powerful tool for reducing unwanted sexual interactions. Practicing consent in everyday life can lead to richer, more rewarding relationships and emotional resilience.

Chasing Awe

Every eighteen months or so, the heavens align to give us a lesson in awe, desire, and addiction.

Would You Like a Hug?

We don’t become depressed because antidepressants are missing from our daily diet, but a shortage of hugs can lead to anxiety, depression, and worse.

How Not to Feel Broken
It’s been a while since I had to contend with depression, but when I recently found myself with a broken foot, I decided to practice these techniques on a physical challenge. “You never want a serious crisis to go to waste…it’s an opportunity to do things that you think you could not do before.” –Rahm Emanuel

Dying Well

Thinking about death can be far less anxiety producing than thinking about dying. But, surprisingly, contemplating end of life scenarios really tells us more about how we want to live.

Motivation to Meet Our Needs

I was running low on motivation this week. Instead of coming up with a post idea, I decided to take it easy on myself and change the world instead.

Getting Annoyed with People’s Opinions

Getting annoyed with others people’s opinions is one of the stresses of daily life that I’ve resolved to let go of as a New Year’s resolution. So far, I’m not doing so well. Here’s how I plan to do better.

Work and Well-Being

Labor Day seems like the perfect time to look at the connection between work and well-being.

Thoughtful Giving

On Black Friday I completed my holiday shopping. I didn’t buy anything. We enjoyed the physical and mental health benefits of taking a walk in a lovely nature park we’d never been to before.